The End

As I mentioned, I have been dating a Domme and things were going well since the end of September. From the beginning we discussed limits and interests in various kinks. She knew I desired a monogamous relationship and that I had a hard limit of ever including other men in our activities. She voiced no objection and stated she understood and agreed. We spent a lot of time together in those three months and became very involved physically and emotionally. I believed I had finally found THE ONE.

A week ago she informed me she had special plans for "us" on New Year's Eve. She kept the details to herself other than telling me to keep the day and evening open, to pack a bag, and gave a list of the things she wanted me to bring. To say I was excited would be an understatement.

Last night she informed me that we were visiting a male Dom, female submissive couple's home and that several male and female submissives would be there. She had plans on "using" several of the male and female submissives sexually and expected me to participate. Given our previous discussions, I was stunned.

I reminded her that this was a hard limit for me and that she was well aware of this. She patted my cheek, smiled condescendingly and informed me that she was in control and that she was helping me "push past" this ridiculous barrier I had established. When I told her I would not, she informed me I would then sit and watch as she "used those who are the real submissives" and that I would then have an object lesson in how I should behave. After informing her this would not be the case and that I would no longer see her if she could not hold to her original agreement of a monogamous relationship, she laughed and again patted my cheek and told me that I was "too far gone to let go of (her) now. I know you are fully under my control and cannot break away from me."

After informing her that her choices were forcing me to end our relationship, I drove her home, saw her to the door, and turned to leave. As I walked down the sidewalk she called after me telling me that I would come crawling back, that no real submissive man would turn their back on a Domme like her.

It struck me as I drove away that I'd rather have a pure vanilla relationship with a woman who loves me, totally and completely giving up my kinks, than to have a relationship with a woman who doesn't respect my limits or love me in the way I love her.

Kink means nothing without love and respect.